Friday, January 29, 2010

Can't sleep at 6am in the morning...

I don't know why, but i can't understand why i can't sleep even though i'm down with a runny nose, feeling damn damn sick, maybe coz i slept from 7pm to 9pm? but still by right i should still be sleepy enough to be cuddling in my bed now...

It's 632am as my macbook time shows. Winfred is sleeping beside me now, got to wake up soon for this 830 lesson and wat a long day for himmm. I have 830 lesson later too, marketing from 830 to 1030, but why can't i sleep? I don't understand also, it's really weird, i climbed onto my bed at 3am, toss here toss there, sneezed...wipe my mucus much like how justin always does, haha, and at a point of time, felt like shit, like i'm gonna die, lol... so sleepless me tried to find sth to do, so i watched wo cai, hahaha, for like 1 hr, thinking tt after tt i can fall asleep, but NO. i climbed back to my bed, but still dun have tt sleepy feeling..

I did comtemplate to do my tutorial, but not awake enough to think analytically, or on the lights to disturb winfred up...Do u guys ever have this feeling b4? like you're not awake enough to do hw, but also not sleepy enough to fall asleep... Anw i have to apologize to my roomie here, for all my early mornings, waking u up, disturbing ur uninterrupted sleep. Only u would have tolerated all these, if it was anyone else, i'll probably find my matress somewhere else when i come back from lessons.

Anw i'm talking to alvin now on msn, weird that he's awake too. =) So with time on my hands, i decided to go surf fb...but then find myself landing up here thinking, hey, why dun i write a new post? Time for some reflections and thoughts, this is quite a good avenue actually.

So lately i'm been thinking about stereotyping, haha learned that in organizational behaviour seminar today, which is quite boring btw...

Okay! Question of the day is: Would you ever date someone not from your own race? Would you ask someone out who is like 10kg heavier than you? guys, i welcome your answer, and serious answer, not jokingly one. Think about your perception when i talk about these 2 type of ppl. Who do u know comes into mind straightaway? n would you REALLY date them? if let's say every other characteristics of that person fit your dream girl descriptions. It's jus that she's fat, or she's from another race.

If your answer to the question is yes, why? If no, what's stopping you?

You see, there are certain social norms that we follow, and stereotyping we follow...aren't we all guilty of that? If you see someone with a tattoo, will u think he's a nice guy, cultured, knows calligraphy, reserved and introverted? well, probably not. Of course the saying goes, dun judge a book by its cover, but how many of us can really do that? well, hey, this actually links to marketing, lol. I mean, the cover of the book is how the author shapes your perception of the book, and thereafter makes u want to pick up the book and read and maybe buy it. IF the cover is like shit, torn, dull, u would probably give that book a miss, for there's one lying around with attractive cover and bold lettering and words that catches ur interest. So, actually, YOU judge a book by its cover.

We are judging all the time, and we are judged all the time. Perception is happing everyday around us. What kind of impression do u have when barack obama came into the US elections? (anw it's his one year into office alr) Good? smart looking? dependable? You see, every little thing you do, the things you wear, shapes others' impression about u. Haha, this links to communication fundementals, another of my course this sem. When you go to interview, ppl judge u before you even open your mouth. So to win this game of perception, you must know how to play it. It's actually quite simple, jus put yourself in the shoes of the interviewer for e.g. What impression would u get if you see yourself wearing that set of clothes for interview? Well, if you have a super muscular body, you'll probably think this guy is a rugged, tough person, all brawn but no brains.

See, another societal stereotype. Well it's good n bad. Sure, sometimes it's true, afterall ,he really must have gymed a lot to get tt kind of body, he can't get it any other way else. But what if he's really smart and like nobel prize worthy? You then would have mistaken him. So luckily, perceptions can be changed by knowing him a level deeper, but it's hard to change. The person has to work doubly hard, triply hard to change ur first impression of him. so be careful guys, what type of image u r projecting now, coz it will last...to those who dun know u well, especially in a new environment like uni, where u meet new ppl all the time.

However, it's too tiring, n the world wun stop spinning for u, if you keep thinking about how ppl judge u, or think about you. It's too tiring and it's too fake. Statistics (another course i took this sem, haha) have shown that at least 80% of interviewees lied about their strengths in interviews, talking about what they HOPE they are, when indeed they are not. So how honest are you with yourself?

Perceptions are a scary thing ain't it? It is around us everyday, it affects the shirts you wear, the watch you buy, the way you stand on the mrt, the way you order food in a restaurant when your gf is around, the way you eat. Soooooo, back to the question, will you date someone who is not from your own race? someone who is fatter than you?

Share your honest insights here! Thanks guys!

Woo, it's time to go for class! and i'm still not sleepy yet, wth...haha! Have a good weekend!

8 comments:

  1. Haha, weird to see you in the morning,but you woke me up!!!i might date someone not my own race,but not fatter than me, feels weird, like my mum...but i think fatter than dao zhe,winfred or hanyuan might not be that bad actually...

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  2. I can seriously tell that hy is putting what he's studing into good use. How i wish i could apply some of my modules and share too! But no - what I am learning doesnt really help. Perhaps introecons (which I didnt take out of all the CSB here... argh!)and financial accounting. Hmmm too many other projects!

    Well. To be honestly honest, I think I will not date a wuzu (c'mon guys. seriously i wont) but yeah.. Fatter than me? Hmmm. considering that I am already quite big size I think it'll be quite weird. I think I am more of the type that "takes care" of people? So smaller than me would be my preference.

    How about this - would you date a girl taller than you? Well? For me, I think unlikely that I will. Anyway, all the positiveness aint working for me haha.

    I will focus on my studies this valentines day. Oh. Maybe collect more angbaos! Oh. Anyway, going who's houses for CNY? Can still go HS, ASTON, BERT and GERRARD house even if they're not here not? After all, its the thought that counts. Hahaha. CSB all the way man.

    Thanks hanyuan for such a long post. Made me think quite a lot. I am expecting a POST from andreu or khoo soon enough??

    Cheers guys. Btw, LEGENDS beat RJC 8-5 today. And, hopefully 2nd issue of our newsletter will be out like APRIL? Sorry guys. busy lah.

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  3. well first things first... i think first impressions can only bring you so far? for example the way you act when your gf is around might be different for the "honeymoon" period, but after that when the two of you start to get more serious, won't you revert back to your so called "norms" once again? or maybe when it's time for you to get serious and start contemplating marriage, appeareances might not matter as much as it would have when you were contemplating whether to ask the girl out or not right?

    to the question that you posted, i shall first touch on the issue of race. to whoever is reading this, this is by no means an attack on any race out there. well i think that most people tend to get together with someone from their own race and own religion is because their beliefs and culture are very similar. as such, they have more things in common and tend to view the world with the same perspectives. so if you were to ask me honestly, i think there are some races that i wouldn't mind dating, and some that i might mind. once again this has no racist implications here but my reason is just that some races have more conflicting views than others with respect to mine.

    well next, the question about "prosperity". hmm, i think fat is subjective no? in a sense that a girl might be lighter than me but really short,so she looks "prosperous"? maybe the question here is whether i would like to date someone who is heavier than me. personally i do not have objections against dating someoe heavier than me. firstly because i'm really light and secondly because it's all about proportionality. but then again, i wouldn't want to date someone overly "prosperous" as deemed by my standards because my preferences are still with someone sporty and more athletic...

    so yea that's my take on the issue and my personal preferences...

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  4. Alvin, far enough answer, thanks for being the 1st replier! =)

    Ivan, actually i was trying to ying ying link everything i learnt to put here, hahahaha! I will actually date a girl taller than me, think i'm okay with that. Can come my house i think, but hey hey of course dun mind going the houses u mentioned.

    Dz, i agree with you, yes once u get more shou with ur gf, then you'll revert to norms, but if your first impression dun attract the girl, will u even have the chance to revert to ur norm? get wat i mean? It's a door, to other things to come. thank you for the insights on race, think it's quite true...Yup, fat is indeed subjective. Everyone has ur own standards like dz said. tt's why i put heavier than urself. So if you're fine with tt, okay!

    Conclusion:
    Alvin's gf to be: might be someone from other races, not heavier than him

    Ivan's gf to be: not a wuzu, but other race okay, not heavier than him, not taller than him

    Dz's gf to be: not from certain races, not overly 'prosperous', sporty and athletic

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  5. okay my turn to finally reply. i feel that love breaks all barriers so dating someone from another race is definitely not impossible. however i feel that, like what daozhe has mentioned, people of the same race tend to want to mix together. so while it is not impossible, the chances are slim. but i wouldnt mind dating someone else from another race.

    second question, whether i will date someone who is heavier than me. 10kg heavier? it depends on whether it's bone mass or body mass. if we still look compatible, why not? so long it doesnt look like she will eat me up can already. but i wouldnt date a girl who is taller than me. at most same height as me. cos i think it's uncommon for the female to be the taller one and wont look too compatible. it's all about compatibility.

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  6. I too, like Winfred, don't think that race (wrt Chinese, Korean, Japanese, Afro, White, Malay, Indian etc) is a barrier at all. In fact, race is so subjective that it has been used as such a bad justification for normalization of certain views. Just 100 years ago, blacks were considered as animals who achieved human physique (like hollows that evolve into vasto lordes); just 60 years ago Japaneses were considered scientifically inept at flying planes. So, I'll never use race as a criteria when looking for my significant other. What're important though, are life values and beliefs (religious and personal). I'm open to dating people of all races, it's religion that matters for me.

    On the question of whether I can accept a girl heavier than I am...I have to say that I would prefer to have a lady who isn't way too round. According to one of my friends here, thick thighs and big bellies indicate that the lady is lazy and doesn't care about her own health. It might be good to avoid lazy ladies. I don't like lazy people. But we all grow old, ugly and fat anyway.

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  7. I do agree that religion above all, is the barrier to relationships, so to me race doesn't play that huge a factor. There are many other factors to that, which i believe has been mentioned above.

    In terms of height, it doesn't matter to me. I secretly want to try dating someone taller than me hahaha. Weight wise, i would prefer one lighter than me but not anorexic cos thats just wrong.

    All that said, its really more of a fantasy at this point in time; a figment of my imagination who appears mostly in my sleep and causes me to wonder the rest of the day who in the world she resembles. I think what i really hope is to find someone who would listen to me and is smart.

    Haha Stay Positive!!!

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  8. HAHAHA... after what ps said. it's more like right now, i'll take anything i can get... positive turning into desperation

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