haven't blogged here in a really long time and today i really felt the urge to blog, mainly because of the tri-uni games. it is something that we can all relate to. the entry is not going to be about how we lost to nus, smu or how we played, but rather, what caused it and what can be done.
alvin and i have also decided to commit some time to help ntu in training and play for them in the league. playing for them is not so much because i n dz are going to US during that period. the REAL reason is really, i feel that ntu cannot go lower anymore. i am sure alvin you feel the same way too.
Training
think about the usual attendance. 7 people? 8? 9? i know i am guilty of this as well, but we all have other commitment, such as school, friends, and for me, hall events. everyone needs to have that passion to train, to improve. but sadly, i cant see that here. it is a direct contrast to ora trainings, where i can really just go down, catch up with old friends and i can feel that difference, ALOT of difference in the mood, atmosphere and quality of the training. what i mean by quality of training is working on our weak points and be really specific, like bunting to third, to first, hitting top spin these kinda stuff. sadly, i dont feel that during ntu trainings because firstly, the people are not close and secondly, the quality of players are not there to be so specific.
People
imagine today, if we do not have lionel, gabriel and farhan. what would have been the outcome? on the other hand, even when we had them, we didnt play up to standards too and it's reflected in our plays. our throws were not sharp and our fieldings and plays werent coordinated. they are proven good players but we still need consistent training to stay sharp. on the other hand, we have a mixed pool of players who arent so polished in their skills, out of which, some show the passion and desire to want to play and train hard, while some are just going down to training for fun. all these boils down to commitment.
Commitment is hard to get from the players especially when the management isnt at its best. let us look at the macro level. darren is trying very hard to coordinate everybody and his hard work can be seen by all. but it's a vicious cycle. the school is not very supportive of softball and requires results before it is willing to commit more attention and fundings to the sport. no ivp status due to the lack of schools participating have resulted in many who are unwilling to play for the school.
with so many administrative issues such as jerseys, equipment and etc to settle, it is no wonder the whole team seems like an abandoned ship. a team that enters a tournament without a set of jerseys for everyone reflects on everybody, not just the manager. no one bothers to help to settle the adminstraive issues, no one wanna push for the jerseys, the fundings, and getting more players to come.
what we need now, really, is just a pool of commited players in the team, each willing to chip in their parts for the team. some of the guys were talking to me just now and i know that there are frustrated ppl too. it's really the people and the passion that matters and someone has to take it up. just look at smu( i am not trying to por you all here). look at their team, the way they bond. you can never see that in ours, at least for now.
i wouldnt mind taking the less experienced guys and work on their basics but i still feel that we need a coach. with a respected coach, ppl will make time to come down for training. but as for now, jieli told me that alvin is very gian to pitch now. that's damn good. i think we share the aim of doing well for the league first.
for a start, i can take care of the training programme with what i know while alvin take the pitching dept. and hanyuan, i hope you can see a cause if everyone is willing to put in an effort to improve. we wont win the league for sure, but i hope to see camaraderie and improvement in skills. currently, they are looking at us as the experienced player to lead the way. one pitcher, 1 infield, 1 outfield, what say you? take up the roles of mentors and see the fruits of our labour in the league.
i believe we can make a difference. it wont be fast, and we still need quality players and a good pitcher. if we can work together, it is possible
Sunday, February 28, 2010
Thursday, February 25, 2010
TESTED : POSITIVE
Hello hello!
Here's another new post by me, which is very close to our heart i guess. So, let's jus dive into the topic.
As you all know, we have embraced POSITIVENESS for quite some time, which is poles apart from all the suaning we used to do to HS, or even anyone of us, as soon as any little bit of rumour springs up, haha! I have to say that i missed those fun days, but I guess we've all grown up to move beyond that stage of our life, haha.
Well, we've talked about BE POSITIVE, BE POSITIVE, but how many of us really know what it means or what it encompasses? Hopefully by the end of this post, with all the comments, we will all get a better idea of what is really BE MORE POSITIVE, and one day, taste that sweet reward of finding the dream guy or dream girl, we've been all dreaming about. (no, not wet dreams, haha)
BEING POSITIVE, wat does it mean? ok, well, in the true sense of the word, it means....not being negative, haha, ok it doesn't help, lol. Okay, firstly, it's a change of mindset, being more open, to new people, make new frens, and changing perceptions of relationship. It origins from YOU, not not blaming anything or anyone, for your lack of love relationships so far in your life. And a point to emphasize is, it's not jus about HIM or HER; meaning you ask the person out more, give the person more gifts, visit the person more often. These are symptoms of being more positive, but the ACT of being more positive, is actually changing yourself, for the better.
Let me elaborate more about that. Well, note that i put a jus in the point that it's not jus about HIM or HER, n not it's not about him or her, becoz, in some matter of fact, he or she does come into the picture, for the reason of your actions. If it's only about yourself, things r easy to control, but because relationships involves 2 person, as it always does, there's an element of giving and taking. SO u can't jus change, without a target or type of person in mind. In the same analogy, you can't make a product, without knowing what you customers want, (haha, marketing idea involved here). If your customers want a hairdryer that can shave that looks like a hairdryer, you can't make an shaver that can hairdry which looks like a shaver, and expect them to buy it, hahaha. I believe, each of us, have a dream girl that we will want to spend the rest of our lives, no matter how much you say, ohhhh, no idea, when she comes, i'll know. She (the dream girl) will have some traits that you'll like, and some traits that you think she would want, in a bf.
Taking it further, for example, if you like a girl who is really reserved, quiet, demure, you would maybe expect her bf to be somewat similar. So if you're the guy in this case, you would maybe show more of ur quiet side when you're around her. Maybe go read more books, etc. Well, of coz, who is to say that maybe she like someone who is really loud and expressive, but this is jus an example, for illustration, i think you get the point.
Well, it's all about the law of attraction. Well, if there's no physical target like a real physical girl, but jus an imaginary dream girl with the traits you would like to see, being positive, means: preparing yourself, so that when you MEET one, you would have alr been the type that she will be attracted to. Or, preparing yourself TO meet this dream girl, this means maybe go more to lib, if you like quiet demure girls, or clubs, if you like girls who are fun-loving. So there's 2 part here. Finding her, and attracting her.
Indeed, like the old saying, you reap wat you sow, waiting for the rabbit under the tree is jus NOT being positive at all. If you still harbour the thought that, oh, one day, he or she will appear in my life, I don't need to worry about my love life, let me move on to something more important first. Now, I question, how important is love life to you? Each of us assign different amount of importance to it. Some of us, maybe thinking, career is more important to me now, love life can take a step back first, BUT, if a blessed family, a fruitful love life is what you want ultimately in life, you better put in some effort before it's all too late.
I know, some of you might be thinking that: isn't that like asking me to not be myself? It's too fake, i dun wan the girl to be attracted to traits that I've been acting out, in order to attract her. Well, being positive, is not to be confused with changing youself, changing your character or ACTING in a certain way for that dream girl. Being positive is still about being youself, but not being too comfortable with yourself, is about being a BETTER yourself. Everyone has many sides to ourselves, sometimes we are introverted, sometimes expressive, sometimes thoughtful, sometimes decisive. I think all of us, have done the myers briggs personality test(omg, saw that in organizational behaviour) before. No one have all the extroverted traits in under that section right? We have some of both introverted n extroverted traits, jus then when it tally, we more either MORE extroverted or introverted, we lean to one, we tend to display traits of one side. Therefore, this means, intrinsically, we are able to show either side of us. These apply to JUDGING, THINKING, PERCEPTION, FEELING, and so on. I think you get the idea. So it's not ACTING as someone who you are not, but selectively display traits that you alr have, and make them more prominent.
We have been talking about being positive theoretically, but what about in action? Well to share with you one personal example, I've been going to the gym more often than I used to. Reason one: to gain weight to look not so skinny, to have a better physique. Reason two: to fare better in sports. How is this being positive? First, it starts with what traits I think my future gf might like to have in a bf. I was thinking she wouldn't want to have a bf who is too skinny and have a good physique. Of coz, by doing this, I'm not expecting my future gf to be someone who is shallow and only like guys with good physique, but hey, surely I'll attract more girls in this way, than if i jus lie in bed and sleep my time away right? This is only one thing you can do, other things you can do might be, pick up a new language, read more books, go for facial, go running, go swimming, go for outings more often, being more active in school to meet more frens...etc
The thing about being positive is that it has many good side effects as well, and improve the quality of your life, the only reward is not only getting the dream girl you want For example, by going to gym to gain weight, unknowingly, i will also have better sports performance and better physical well-being, feeling better. If you go to facial, go to waxing, to improve your physical appearance to appear better in front of girls, you also increase you chances of successful interviews in your work life. As hard as you might argue, looks do matter when choosing a possible candidate, (learnt that in comm fundamental, haha). Looking at it critically, there's really nothing negative that you can get, by being positive.
Well, that is my two cents worth on BEING POSITIVE, now it's ur turn! If you agree, or disagree with my views, please comment fervently, haha. And, since we all have alr embraced POSITIVENESS, write down one thing that you have done in the last few weeks or months that display that you are becoming more positive. This might be going swimming more to appear more tan, to attract more sporty girls maybe? haha!
Look forward to a lively discussion! =)
Here's another new post by me, which is very close to our heart i guess. So, let's jus dive into the topic.
As you all know, we have embraced POSITIVENESS for quite some time, which is poles apart from all the suaning we used to do to HS, or even anyone of us, as soon as any little bit of rumour springs up, haha! I have to say that i missed those fun days, but I guess we've all grown up to move beyond that stage of our life, haha.
Well, we've talked about BE POSITIVE, BE POSITIVE, but how many of us really know what it means or what it encompasses? Hopefully by the end of this post, with all the comments, we will all get a better idea of what is really BE MORE POSITIVE, and one day, taste that sweet reward of finding the dream guy or dream girl, we've been all dreaming about. (no, not wet dreams, haha)
BEING POSITIVE, wat does it mean? ok, well, in the true sense of the word, it means....not being negative, haha, ok it doesn't help, lol. Okay, firstly, it's a change of mindset, being more open, to new people, make new frens, and changing perceptions of relationship. It origins from YOU, not not blaming anything or anyone, for your lack of love relationships so far in your life. And a point to emphasize is, it's not jus about HIM or HER; meaning you ask the person out more, give the person more gifts, visit the person more often. These are symptoms of being more positive, but the ACT of being more positive, is actually changing yourself, for the better.
Let me elaborate more about that. Well, note that i put a jus in the point that it's not jus about HIM or HER, n not it's not about him or her, becoz, in some matter of fact, he or she does come into the picture, for the reason of your actions. If it's only about yourself, things r easy to control, but because relationships involves 2 person, as it always does, there's an element of giving and taking. SO u can't jus change, without a target or type of person in mind. In the same analogy, you can't make a product, without knowing what you customers want, (haha, marketing idea involved here). If your customers want a hairdryer that can shave that looks like a hairdryer, you can't make an shaver that can hairdry which looks like a shaver, and expect them to buy it, hahaha. I believe, each of us, have a dream girl that we will want to spend the rest of our lives, no matter how much you say, ohhhh, no idea, when she comes, i'll know. She (the dream girl) will have some traits that you'll like, and some traits that you think she would want, in a bf.
Taking it further, for example, if you like a girl who is really reserved, quiet, demure, you would maybe expect her bf to be somewat similar. So if you're the guy in this case, you would maybe show more of ur quiet side when you're around her. Maybe go read more books, etc. Well, of coz, who is to say that maybe she like someone who is really loud and expressive, but this is jus an example, for illustration, i think you get the point.
Well, it's all about the law of attraction. Well, if there's no physical target like a real physical girl, but jus an imaginary dream girl with the traits you would like to see, being positive, means: preparing yourself, so that when you MEET one, you would have alr been the type that she will be attracted to. Or, preparing yourself TO meet this dream girl, this means maybe go more to lib, if you like quiet demure girls, or clubs, if you like girls who are fun-loving. So there's 2 part here. Finding her, and attracting her.
Indeed, like the old saying, you reap wat you sow, waiting for the rabbit under the tree is jus NOT being positive at all. If you still harbour the thought that, oh, one day, he or she will appear in my life, I don't need to worry about my love life, let me move on to something more important first. Now, I question, how important is love life to you? Each of us assign different amount of importance to it. Some of us, maybe thinking, career is more important to me now, love life can take a step back first, BUT, if a blessed family, a fruitful love life is what you want ultimately in life, you better put in some effort before it's all too late.
I know, some of you might be thinking that: isn't that like asking me to not be myself? It's too fake, i dun wan the girl to be attracted to traits that I've been acting out, in order to attract her. Well, being positive, is not to be confused with changing youself, changing your character or ACTING in a certain way for that dream girl. Being positive is still about being youself, but not being too comfortable with yourself, is about being a BETTER yourself. Everyone has many sides to ourselves, sometimes we are introverted, sometimes expressive, sometimes thoughtful, sometimes decisive. I think all of us, have done the myers briggs personality test(omg, saw that in organizational behaviour) before. No one have all the extroverted traits in under that section right? We have some of both introverted n extroverted traits, jus then when it tally, we more either MORE extroverted or introverted, we lean to one, we tend to display traits of one side. Therefore, this means, intrinsically, we are able to show either side of us. These apply to JUDGING, THINKING, PERCEPTION, FEELING, and so on. I think you get the idea. So it's not ACTING as someone who you are not, but selectively display traits that you alr have, and make them more prominent.
We have been talking about being positive theoretically, but what about in action? Well to share with you one personal example, I've been going to the gym more often than I used to. Reason one: to gain weight to look not so skinny, to have a better physique. Reason two: to fare better in sports. How is this being positive? First, it starts with what traits I think my future gf might like to have in a bf. I was thinking she wouldn't want to have a bf who is too skinny and have a good physique. Of coz, by doing this, I'm not expecting my future gf to be someone who is shallow and only like guys with good physique, but hey, surely I'll attract more girls in this way, than if i jus lie in bed and sleep my time away right? This is only one thing you can do, other things you can do might be, pick up a new language, read more books, go for facial, go running, go swimming, go for outings more often, being more active in school to meet more frens...etc
The thing about being positive is that it has many good side effects as well, and improve the quality of your life, the only reward is not only getting the dream girl you want For example, by going to gym to gain weight, unknowingly, i will also have better sports performance and better physical well-being, feeling better. If you go to facial, go to waxing, to improve your physical appearance to appear better in front of girls, you also increase you chances of successful interviews in your work life. As hard as you might argue, looks do matter when choosing a possible candidate, (learnt that in comm fundamental, haha). Looking at it critically, there's really nothing negative that you can get, by being positive.
Well, that is my two cents worth on BEING POSITIVE, now it's ur turn! If you agree, or disagree with my views, please comment fervently, haha. And, since we all have alr embraced POSITIVENESS, write down one thing that you have done in the last few weeks or months that display that you are becoming more positive. This might be going swimming more to appear more tan, to attract more sporty girls maybe? haha!
Look forward to a lively discussion! =)
Saturday, February 13, 2010
恭喜发财！年年有余！对牛弹琴？！悬崖勒马？！
我在这祝大家新年快乐。希望团圆饭会带来更多欢喜，更多的大红包！
每当过年过节，大家的心情是怎样的呢？愉快，期待，为放假而轻松？因为可以暂时逃离学校，还是因为可以跟家人朋友聚会？还是，想呆在床上好好的睡个大觉，为这一阵子辛苦的日子休息呢？
相信大家都有不同的感想。十年一转眼就飞过了。认识了十年，得到的友情可说是比任何东西还贵重！一直以来，分分秒秒与你们过着酸甜苦辣！谢谢你们咯！
这美丽的缘分是赐给我们最大的宝物！
农历新年，希望大家不要只顾着吃肉干，凤梨酥，甜品等。要记得多喝开水哟！免得身体过热，祝大家身体健康。
涵涵 =）
Friday, February 5, 2010
Robinsons Sale at Expo
GUYS...
Check this out. Robinsons CNY sale at expo. It ends on the 7th feb and I think that you would be able to find quite a lot of good buys there. I bought this 4 shirts for only $61.25... Could have been more but thanks to the good old SAFRA card, there was a 10% off. So 4 shirts for sixty only comes up to be about $15 per shirt! The crowd wasn't bad too... Loads of space to maneouver around, so don't miss this great opportunity. GO NOW...
Monday, February 1, 2010
What is Love?
Hey guys,
I recently had a long discussion with my roommates on love. One of them thinks that the diff between platonic and romantic is physical intimacy, and so after the discussion I wrote him this email, and now I would really like to share it with you guys:
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Dear Nathan (not Mrs Nathan),
The difference between platonic and romantic is not physical intimacy. It is emotional, it is love. It is wanting to share her life, her pain, her joy and throughout all these to be the source of her peace. It is loving and accepting her every imperfection, but yet growing older and better together. It's about two persons' imperfections complementing each other's imperfections.
It is with this someone whom you can be fully vulnerable with and yet be aware that you would not be hurt. It is with this someone that you can be silent, but yet be aware that the committed love you two share need not be verified with acts or words. It is with this someone that you would wake up every morning knowing that she would always be there for you, just as you would be there for her. Are you ready to sacrifice every bit of your time for another person? Are you ready live two lives in one?
When you find this someone you would know it. Falling in love might not be at first sight. It might just be at the moment when you two look at the same leaf floating in the wind and think of the same interpretation. It might be that moment when you know that you would do anything just to make this one lady happy.
Take my advice on this—find someone with whom your perspective of life and personal values are similar, and not simply someone attractive or someone “cool” (haha Americans really love to use this word). We all grow old and haggard after our forties, but it’s not with every old lady that you would want to share your life with and would intrinsically be comfortable with everyday.
Take your time. The most enduring love doesn’t burn wildly. Wild flames burn out in an instant. Enduring love starts out as a spark, and simmers, warms, and becomes more intense over time. The physical intimacy in the relationship should then rightly correspond to the stage of this relationship—it is a marker, not a difference like what you said. Different people express love via different love languages. Some touch, some give tangible gifts, some give quality time, some perform acts of service, some praise. What is yours and what is hers? Also, no two relationships are the same because different people are more receptive to certain love languages than others.
I hope that you’ll find someone who loves you as much as you love her, someone who complements your qualities but share your values. The Bible aptly states, “love is unconditional...love always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres”…but not every lady can persevere through your common room habits like we can, Nate. Our common room is littered with your belongings. You have to bring in your athlete’s discipline and training organization to tidying our room...and your future house. Hahaha.
You know you really love someone when you give your heart away, but instead feel more alive.
Sincerely,
David
I recently had a long discussion with my roommates on love. One of them thinks that the diff between platonic and romantic is physical intimacy, and so after the discussion I wrote him this email, and now I would really like to share it with you guys:
------------
Dear Nathan (not Mrs Nathan),
The difference between platonic and romantic is not physical intimacy. It is emotional, it is love. It is wanting to share her life, her pain, her joy and throughout all these to be the source of her peace. It is loving and accepting her every imperfection, but yet growing older and better together. It's about two persons' imperfections complementing each other's imperfections.
It is with this someone whom you can be fully vulnerable with and yet be aware that you would not be hurt. It is with this someone that you can be silent, but yet be aware that the committed love you two share need not be verified with acts or words. It is with this someone that you would wake up every morning knowing that she would always be there for you, just as you would be there for her. Are you ready to sacrifice every bit of your time for another person? Are you ready live two lives in one?
When you find this someone you would know it. Falling in love might not be at first sight. It might just be at the moment when you two look at the same leaf floating in the wind and think of the same interpretation. It might be that moment when you know that you would do anything just to make this one lady happy.
Take my advice on this—find someone with whom your perspective of life and personal values are similar, and not simply someone attractive or someone “cool” (haha Americans really love to use this word). We all grow old and haggard after our forties, but it’s not with every old lady that you would want to share your life with and would intrinsically be comfortable with everyday.
Take your time. The most enduring love doesn’t burn wildly. Wild flames burn out in an instant. Enduring love starts out as a spark, and simmers, warms, and becomes more intense over time. The physical intimacy in the relationship should then rightly correspond to the stage of this relationship—it is a marker, not a difference like what you said. Different people express love via different love languages. Some touch, some give tangible gifts, some give quality time, some perform acts of service, some praise. What is yours and what is hers? Also, no two relationships are the same because different people are more receptive to certain love languages than others.
I hope that you’ll find someone who loves you as much as you love her, someone who complements your qualities but share your values. The Bible aptly states, “love is unconditional...love always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres”…but not every lady can persevere through your common room habits like we can, Nate. Our common room is littered with your belongings. You have to bring in your athlete’s discipline and training organization to tidying our room...and your future house. Hahaha.
You know you really love someone when you give your heart away, but instead feel more alive.
Sincerely,
David
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