TESTED : POSITIVE

Hello hello!

Here's another new post by me, which is very close to our heart i guess. So, let's jus dive into the topic.

As you all know, we have embraced POSITIVENESS for quite some time, which is poles apart from all the suaning we used to do to HS, or even anyone of us, as soon as any little bit of rumour springs up, haha! I have to say that i missed those fun days, but I guess we've all grown up to move beyond that stage of our life, haha.

Well, we've talked about BE POSITIVE, BE POSITIVE, but how many of us really know what it means or what it encompasses? Hopefully by the end of this post, with all the comments, we will all get a better idea of what is really BE MORE POSITIVE, and one day, taste that sweet reward of finding the dream guy or dream girl, we've been all dreaming about. (no, not wet dreams, haha)

BEING POSITIVE, wat does it mean? ok, well, in the true sense of the word, it means....not being negative, haha, ok it doesn't help, lol. Okay, firstly, it's a change of mindset, being more open, to new people, make new frens, and changing perceptions of relationship. It origins from YOU, not not blaming anything or anyone, for your lack of love relationships so far in your life. And a point to emphasize is, it's not jus about HIM or HER; meaning you ask the person out more, give the person more gifts, visit the person more often. These are symptoms of being more positive, but the ACT of being more positive, is actually changing yourself, for the better.

Let me elaborate more about that. Well, note that i put a jus in the point that it's not jus about HIM or HER, n not it's not about him or her, becoz, in some matter of fact, he or she does come into the picture, for the reason of your actions. If it's only about yourself, things r easy to control, but because relationships involves 2 person, as it always does, there's an element of giving and taking. SO u can't jus change, without a target or type of person in mind. In the same analogy, you can't make a product, without knowing what you customers want, (haha, marketing idea involved here). If your customers want a hairdryer that can shave that looks like a hairdryer, you can't make an shaver that can hairdry which looks like a shaver, and expect them to buy it, hahaha. I believe, each of us, have a dream girl that we will want to spend the rest of our lives, no matter how much you say, ohhhh, no idea, when she comes, i'll know. She (the dream girl) will have some traits that you'll like, and some traits that you think she would want, in a bf.

Taking it further, for example, if you like a girl who is really reserved, quiet, demure, you would maybe expect her bf to be somewat similar. So if you're the guy in this case, you would maybe show more of ur quiet side when you're around her. Maybe go read more books, etc. Well, of coz, who is to say that maybe she like someone who is really loud and expressive, but this is jus an example, for illustration, i think you get the point.

Well, it's all about the law of attraction. Well, if there's no physical target like a real physical girl, but jus an imaginary dream girl with the traits you would like to see, being positive, means: preparing yourself, so that when you MEET one, you would have alr been the type that she will be attracted to. Or, preparing yourself TO meet this dream girl, this means maybe go more to lib, if you like quiet demure girls, or clubs, if you like girls who are fun-loving. So there's 2 part here. Finding her, and attracting her.

Indeed, like the old saying, you reap wat you sow, waiting for the rabbit under the tree is jus NOT being positive at all. If you still harbour the thought that, oh, one day, he or she will appear in my life, I don't need to worry about my love life, let me move on to something more important first. Now, I question, how important is love life to you? Each of us assign different amount of importance to it. Some of us, maybe thinking, career is more important to me now, love life can take a step back first, BUT, if a blessed family, a fruitful love life is what you want ultimately in life, you better put in some effort before it's all too late.

I know, some of you might be thinking that: isn't that like asking me to not be myself? It's too fake, i dun wan the girl to be attracted to traits that I've been acting out, in order to attract her. Well, being positive, is not to be confused with changing youself, changing your character or ACTING in a certain way for that dream girl. Being positive is still about being youself, but not being too comfortable with yourself, is about being a BETTER yourself. Everyone has many sides to ourselves, sometimes we are introverted, sometimes expressive, sometimes thoughtful, sometimes decisive. I think all of us, have done the myers briggs personality test(omg, saw that in organizational behaviour) before. No one have all the extroverted traits in under that section right? We have some of both introverted n extroverted traits, jus then when it tally, we more either MORE extroverted or introverted, we lean to one, we tend to display traits of one side. Therefore, this means, intrinsically, we are able to show either side of us. These apply to JUDGING, THINKING, PERCEPTION, FEELING, and so on. I think you get the idea. So it's not ACTING as someone who you are not, but selectively display traits that you alr have, and make them more prominent.

We have been talking about being positive theoretically, but what about in action? Well to share with you one personal example, I've been going to the gym more often than I used to. Reason one: to gain weight to look not so skinny, to have a better physique. Reason two: to fare better in sports. How is this being positive? First, it starts with what traits I think my future gf might like to have in a bf. I was thinking she wouldn't want to have a bf who is too skinny and have a good physique. Of coz, by doing this, I'm not expecting my future gf to be someone who is shallow and only like guys with good physique, but hey, surely I'll attract more girls in this way, than if i jus lie in bed and sleep my time away right? This is only one thing you can do, other things you can do might be, pick up a new language, read more books, go for facial, go running, go swimming, go for outings more often, being more active in school to meet more frens...etc

The thing about being positive is that it has many good side effects as well, and improve the quality of your life, the only reward is not only getting the dream girl you want For example, by going to gym to gain weight, unknowingly, i will also have better sports performance and better physical well-being, feeling better. If you go to facial, go to waxing, to improve your physical appearance to appear better in front of girls, you also increase you chances of successful interviews in your work life. As hard as you might argue, looks do matter when choosing a possible candidate, (learnt that in comm fundamental, haha). Looking at it critically, there's really nothing negative that you can get, by being positive.

Well, that is my two cents worth on BEING POSITIVE, now it's ur turn! If you agree, or disagree with my views, please comment fervently, haha. And, since we all have alr embraced POSITIVENESS, write down one thing that you have done in the last few weeks or months that display that you are becoming more positive. This might be going swimming more to appear more tan, to attract more sporty girls maybe? haha!

Look forward to a lively discussion! =)