I guess our blog started out to be a really "secret" but I think that our topics have aroused much interest in this fast moving modern world. Kudos to the NTU boys for posting those wonderful entries especially during their recess week. I wonder what happened to SMU time when recess week was just sucked up by meetings and all. I like the way we blog and comment about stuff - but maybe W should revise on our blog layout again. More vibrance. More activity. Better! Thanks W - keep it going!
A quick report on Saturday's game against RI "A" boys: Final Score ORA Legends 14 - 9 Raffles 'A' Boys. It was a very high scoring game as the scoreline made many bookies richer than the casino in our IR. Expected outcome, unexpected scoreline.
- Tan Yi Rui 3B
- Ivan Ng CF
- Farhan 1B
- Senthil C
- Jerald P
- Teck Piaw 2B
- Kuan Fu SS
- Wee Hao LF
- Chong Zhi RF
Subs: Daniel Lee, Farish
It was a display of supreme offensive powers from the Legends as Teck Piaw capped off, batting 3 for 3 and 1 walk. Jerald had 2 HR and Farhan recorded his 1st Inside the park HR ever, with 3RBI. The ever reliant Yi Rui was a bit off form, batting 1 for 4. Ivan finished the game with a fluke HR (I am sure you all can imagine - a half-swing that blooped over LF).
Senthil and Ivan also combined for the SPORTSCENTER PLAY OF THE MONTH! David Ortiz was tagged out at 3rd base to end the game.
P.S Thanks zhizhithepig for supporting the game!
As school restarts for everyone, the countdown to project meetings, assignments and exams begin. But look on the bright side guys, we have the whole Summer Break to look forward to!!! It will be here even before you know it. Zoom zoom zoom.
While at a SMU Softball Gathering last night at the Marina Barrage, a thought came to me (purely because the Japs were drunk and doing crazy stuff) - What would you do if you liked a girl and you know it can't/won't happen? I am sure everyone will try to make the best out of it even for the short while. But how exactly? Declare your love or secretly just act like a guardian angel and take care of the girl? What if your bestest friend also liked the same person? It seems like the typical scenarios in dramas, but probably in real life too. Random. But it's just a thought. Well - this applies to girls too by the way.
And to D and the overseas boys, since your blog is officially ... hmm ... how should I say - DEAD? You all can blog here! haha. Hope all's been well for everyone.
Our blog started out to be a really "secret"? hahaha, i never knew that. I jus thot this is a great avenue for us to voice our thoughts and opinion.
ReplyDeleteAs you can see, the people involved makes this blog alive, jus take a look at the overseas boy (dead) blog, everyone plays a part.
To ivan's question: what do u mean it can't/won't happen? i roughly get wat u mean, but i think u have to explain further so we can better answer the question. If i'm the person in question, i will declare my love, but of coz at an opportune time. Of coz, i may also act like a guardian angel n take care of the girl, but not forever. I think nth is impossible, so i'll jus try.
Anw i think, love is selfish, the heart dun have enough room to fit 2 ppl. If ur bestest fren also like the same person, then it's an open 2 horse race, both of u shd try ur best to woo the girl, then the girl will make the choice. No one shd back out, just because u want ur bestest fren to win the girl, that jus means u dun love the girl enough.
hellooos (:
ReplyDeletehahas yes twenty9andahalffeet dieded! and yups i think this is a great place to share stuffs enthu bloggers eff tee double you heehees :D
investigation huh heehees nudgenudgewinkwink :D
okay let me respond properly to the entry. let me state my assumption first (feel free to correct me ogays).
can't/won't = not possible for some reason ie religion, parents or smth like the other person sees you as a friend at that particular point in time.
okay using that definition, i think that it can generally be separated into 2 situations. one would be when the opposition is to do with external factors (religion falls under this because for eg for Christians, there might be pressure from people in church and for Muslims, i think there is a conversion requirement. parents fall under this too because opposition from family can scupper r/s.). the other is when it’s not possible because of the particular situation at that particular point in time (okay the labels are very badly drafted my badd).
for the first category, i think that those barriers are very hard to overcome. because there will be an inordinate amount of pressure and negativity on the parties assuming they get into a r/s and that makes it more difficult. i'm not saying that it isn’t possible, but that it will be hard. so in that situation, i feel that unless those barriers were taken away, it might be best to try and forget that person.
for the second, i think there is room for trying. trying can be done in many ways. it would be more open for guys to use more direct ways like actually telling the girl. imo, it’s harder for girls to do this. so i guess my take would be to (using ivan’s terminology) be the guardian angel and do nice things. and it’s really up to the other party to pick up on the hints and do something about it as girls generally are constrained by societal norms and there is some sort of stigma for a girl (at least from other girls) to dao zhui (backward chase HAHAHAH chinese fail).
and i actually would respectfully disagree with hy. it’s true that all’s fair in love in war. but i don’t necessarily agree with the evaluation that giving way = not loving the person in question enough. such situations are so complex. i'm not saying this is definitely true, but what if your bff is better for that special person like for eg she is more compatible with him or understands him better? and there’s also the bff-ship to care about too. so i guess what i'm trying to say is that if it happened to me, i would most probably give way in the end, but it would be tough.
what a monster comment kaythanksbye nights guys. (:
Let me post the question to u zx, but wat if, you feel that you r more compatible? What would you do???
ReplyDeleteI agree with u, that sometimes, giving up a person is, actually loving that person. You do not have to have him, in order to love him.
Note there's a difference between back out and give up. Back out means, you dun even try, you jus let ur bestest fren be with the girl, because simply, he's ur bestest fren. Give up, means u tried, and you find that she'll be more happy with the other one, and u give up, knowing that she'll be better off, n she's happy, which is what you want.
I agree that gender inequality plays a part here, as in for girls, it's harder to declare their love as compare to guys. I jus wonder when will the time come when both gender can equally zhui each other.
When i meant love is selfish, it does not contradict the point, that alvin and dz has been toking abt. I agree with u all, that you can love 2 person at the same time, or even more. However, can you accept the one you love, loving 2 person at the same time? Can you watch the one you love, make out with some other guy and not feel a pinch in your heart? So c'mon, can anyone explain why love can be so generous on one side, but so stingy, on the other?
I don't see how religion can be the big boulder that blocks up a possible love relationship. Yes, people of diff religions do narrow their pool of prospective targets via religion, but I don't think it is the only wall blocking the way. Hey, religion is mainly about love isn't it? So, to ZX's point on religion being a barrier, I respectfully disagree. I am, too, a convert. You never know what might happen in God's timing.
ReplyDeleteI don't think we should mix up "like" and "love". I like a lot of girls, but I would ever only love one lady. I'd give my kidney/liver to her without hesitation. And this love happens only after a long long time.
If what Ivan's talking about is loving someone with whom a relationship is impossible, I would say: find a right time and situation to talk it out. But please, don't freak her out or spook her out with some out-of-the-blue talk if you two don't even know each other well. I'm assuming that the two persons have spent quite a lot of time together and have gotten to know each other pretty well as good friends.
And on what to do with your best friend's similar interest-- whatever two of you do, please think about the lady first. She's the one who would be hurt most, and would feel very uncomfortable. Best to settle it decisively. Any lingering doubt hurts everyone.
Haha ZX, the social norms are diff in diff societies.
To address the questions proper, I don’t know exactly what I meant for it to mean when I said about liking a person but knowing it can’t or won’t happen (the question just came up to me) I know it is a broad question but I think with that, we all can see what everyone thinks (bigger scope right?).
ReplyDeleteI personally believe that religion plays a big role because religion and beliefs do come hand in hand. I recently read my friend’s Facebook and he had a phrase on DESTINY.
Let me share this here:
Serendipity - a fortunate accident. You find not what you seek. but what you found answers your needs more than what you seek. it makes you wonder if life is not merely a series of meaningless accidents or coincidences but a tapestry of events that culminate in an exquisite, sublime plan. it's a kind of faith in what the ancients used to call “fatum”, what we currently refer to as destiny.
So, let’s say you believe that in that everything is being planned out for you nicely, that your true love is waiting out there. But it could have been that she’s atheist but you are agnostic. So how will that ever possible work out? Will the union of two hearts ever be possible where in fact, religion is the one that stands in the way, and not the statement that religion is mainly about love.
Perhaps, that’s just one example I conjured up to take my stand on things. Nothing is impossible – I totally agree with that; we can try, but we may not end up achieving what we set out to do after all those efforts right?
To answer hanyuan’s point: the love fight between two best friends. How will we know who is more compatible actually? Isn’t it up for the girl to decide? I mean, if she chooses the “wrong” one, that just means she has embarked on a different journey in life. Picture the girl heading heading to a mangrove swamp, a dark and eerie world, instead of a beautiful sunny green pasture (which the “better man” could have offered)…Life is after all made up of decisions.
Structurally, I may not know how my argument flows to (maybe that’s why my GP got B hahaha). But here’s another thought: Can boyfriend/girlfriends remain as good friends after that? (I know of several relationships where that occurred) But, what happens to the harmony within the group of friends they shared anyway? From my point of view, it is possible. But difficult, I can guarantee this when I say it. But that’s just me.
P.S David: It’s very nice to hear from you =)
Yes ivan, we may not end up achieving what we set out to do, we rarely do, even in terms of other things. But the point is you've tried, and you live with no regrets after that. Whether you achieve what you want or not, is it really important?
ReplyDeleteAnd there's this clip in The Notebook(i dunno if you all have seen it b4), that depict this situation quite clearly. At the end of the day, it's really about one single question:
WHAT DO YOU WANT?
Check this clip out: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ww1WvFZzv4A&feature=related
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ReplyDeleteHaha hanyuan, rachel mcadams, i think ES will like, and yeah, that movie can make girls cry until
ReplyDeletebefore i start,i had a hard time understanding what zx's trying to say,the colloquials are beyond me
wth is "enthu bloggers eff tee double you heehees :D "?
not to put off this post, im seeing a lot of points which are supporting my previous post
1)"I personally believe that religion plays a big role because religion and beliefs do come hand in hand"
2)"for the first category, i think that those barriers are very hard to overcome. because there will be an inordinate amount of pressure and negativity on the parties assuming they get into a r/s and that makes it more difficult. i'm not saying that it isn’t possible, but that it will be hard. so in that situation, i feel that unless those barriers were taken away, it might be best to try and forget that person."
hmm, sorry D, im going to take a dig at your comments, too much fluff
No disrepect to any religions
"I don't see how religion can be the big boulder that blocks up a possible love relationship. Yes, people of diff religions do narrow their pool of prospective targets via religion"
Hmm, a boulder is a boulder, many small boulders add up to a big big boulder
"I don't think we should mix up "like" and "love". I like a lot of girls, but I would ever only love one lady. I'd give my kidney/liver to her without hesitation. And this love happens only after a long long time."
How long is long? Many relationships do not last very long, are you saying that they are not love??
Lastly, HAPPYLOVING
warh, need to think until so deep or not....
ReplyDeleteWell it seems like I’ve opened a can of worms here. I know there’s so much more to love, relationships and commitment that I don’t know, but I’m still learning everyday here. I still hold the innocent thought that the first love would be the one.
ReplyDeleteHowever, how many relationships actually develop from a simple friendship, to being emotionally comfortable with each other, to sharing personal dreams, ideals, to sharing personal views on love, marriage and sex, to knowing almost every bit about the other person AND ONLY AFTER KNOWING ALL THESE about the other person, progress to a committed romantic relationship—having ascertained that you two are truly compatible. The fact is, such transitions are rare. People jump into commitment after one or two dates without knowing the other person thoroughly enough.
Love is an easier thing to do than to understand. But somehow I still believe that there will be someone, whose eyes will provide all the answers you need, despite all the previous wrongs you made.